From Hidden to Honored: Embracing Your Authentic Identity as a Late-Diagnosed Neurodivergent

Hey there, fellow travelers on this wild journey of self-discovery! 🌈 Have you ever felt like you’re wearing a mask, smiling on the outside while your true self hides beneath the surface? As late-diagnosed or neuro-questioning Neurodivergent, many of us walk around with this invisible facade, adapting to a world that often doesn’t quite get us. But guess what? It's time to peel off that mask and celebrate the beautiful, authentic YOU!

I can relate to this journey on a deeply personal level. I wasn’t diagnosed with ADHD and OCD until I turned 25, and it wasn’t until I hit 30 that I was diagnosed as Autistic. Around the age of 28, everything clicked. I had this stark realization that I was living to please everyone around me, limiting myself with fears and behaviors that weren’t serving me. I didn’t even know what “masking” was or that I had been doing it for 28 years just to survive. I just knew that every single part of me that I thought was me was really just a collection of masks I wore for others.

I was terrified of everything—making friends, driving, and even going back to work after being a stay-at-home mom for eight years! It was a confusing and frustrating time, but it was also the moment the core of my “CELLF Awareness” Method was born. From age 28 to 30, I adopted the motto: F@$#! FEAR!!! I began to truly listen to my inner voice, not just hear it but ACT on it.

I started tuning out my OCD Narrator, who constantly told me I wasn’t good enough or that I wasn’t doing things the “right” way. Instead, I began listening to my SOUL. I colored my hair purple, got tattoos, and did things I would NEVER HAVE DONE before but always wanted to. And let me tell you, I felt LIBERATED! That same year, I got certified as a Life Coach—but instead of practicing with others like my teachers suggested, I decided to make myself my first client. I took myself through all the processes I learned as a coach.

And you know what happened? I made THE MOST AMAZING FRIENDS, ones I’m still close to today. I LOVE TO DRIVE!!! Driving with my dogs and my music blasting is my slice of heaven, something I kept from myself for so long out of fear. When I finally discovered who I was FULLY and what I was TRULY CAPABLE OF, I became unstoppable. Every goal I set, from buying a house to coaching neurodivergent teens, I crushed it! I even launched my own LLC and private practice. Every ounce of what I do is authentic, and all I want more than anything is to give that gift to my fellow Neurodivergent family and anyone else I can help along the way.

Now, let’s talk about unmasking. It’s not just about shedding the layers; it’s about embracing your quirks, your sensitivities, and yes, even your challenges. Think of it as a treasure hunt! Each piece of your true identity is like a gem waiting to be discovered. Have you ever felt that moment of clarity when you finally understood a part of yourself that had been hidden? That’s the magic of self-discovery!

But, I get it—the fear of change can be paralyzing. You may worry that unveiling your true self will lead to judgment or misunderstanding. Trust me, you’re not alone in this. We’ve all faced that internal conflict, caught between the desire to conform and the urgent need for authenticity. But here’s the kicker: the world needs your unique voice! Your experiences, your creativity, your perspective—they matter. It’s time to reclaim your power and let your true identity shine!

And let’s be real; this journey isn’t always easy. It takes resilience, support, and a whole lot of self-love. Surround yourself with people who uplift you. Seek out communities that celebrate your individuality. Remember, every step you take toward authenticity is a step toward liberation. So, what are you waiting for?

Now, here’s a little challenge for you: take a moment today to reflect. What’s one way you can start embracing your true self? Share your thoughts with us in the comments! Your journey can inspire others who are on the same path.

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So, tell me—what’s one part of your authentic self that you’re ready to embrace today? 💖